Am I particularly insensitive or just very opinionated? I've lost count of the times my posts and sometimes whole threads have been removed by the administrators of the online forums I'm part of. And these seem rather harmless groups, like my birth club group or a toddler group... This last one I had to leave completely as I was getting upset! Even the hippie ones have removed posts of mine...
So what am I doing? Mainly it's about controlled crying, leaving babies to cry for longer periods of time to teach them to go to sleep on their own. We tried this with Mr Toddler and not a day goes by I don't regret it, it's a horrible thing to do to a little kid who needs you so much (and he was over a year old when we did it, some people do it to babies) so I guess I'm very evangelical about it. I have the fervour of the newly converted (to all things unconditional and attachment based) and can be a little insensitive, but I ask myself: why are posts that describe little kids making themselves sick because they've been left to cry ok, why are these not removed? But my critique is apparently offensive, is it not offensive to read about otherwise loving mothers doing this to their kids?
I hope that with the mounting amount of scientific evidence at our disposal, a few years from now this will be seen as a nasty thing of the past, on a par with sending children to workhouses.
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