I've spent a lot of time thinking lately about "traditional" discipline meaning punishments and rewards and how I feel it doesn't really work. In the sense that what we have done is trained our kids to do and not do certain things but would they want to behave in the same way if we were not around? Would they still do it if they didn't get a sticker/treat/whatever reward we give? Are they behaving well for us or for themselves? That is my question...
Coming from a continuum concept/attachment parenting way of seeing things I think that mine is just a natural progression, as my eldest moves through toddlerhood I do hope he is truly deciding for himself what is right and wrong for him. I also hope that I am showing him by example, by what I do and not by what I say. I have ordered a book called Uncoditional Parenting so hope to find out more about how others have done it, I also know there is something called Unschooling which sounds very interesting, lots to find out!
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